In Miss Shearer’s Fresh Start group we have been reading problem pages. Below is a problem that was sent to us by Embarrassed Kelly in Burnley.
Dear 6CSH
My family is so embarrassing! On Friday nights we go to the disco in the local club. (I’m eleven and my brother is nine.) As soon as the music starts, my dad turns into a windmill!He says he’s dancing but he looks stupid. I can see my friends stare and I think they are sniggering at him. I just pretend I’m not with him. What can I do?
Embarrassed Kelly, Burnley.
What advice would you give?
well you called sit him down and discuss this with him in a really polite way and maybe he will understand xx goodluck
Just hang out with your friends or just dance with him it might be the last chance you get in a while so make the most of it,ignore them you at least you get the chance to dance with your family they don’t and they are most probably jealous of you if it was me I would dance with my family.
That’s my advice
hello my name is lilly whitby and when we have been doing fresh start we have came across are your parents embarrancing you at any time when they are only having fun.xxxx tell us what you think.
I think that katy is gust over reacting because when she is older she will embarris her children one day.Hopefully she will realise it o9ne day from lilly .xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
good advice
I can realy understand your promblem.You must feel embarassedof your dad for doing that silly dance so just ask him to not do it in public and talk to hiiim very po5litly
Dear Embarrased Kelly,
I can really understand your problem.You must feel so weird because of your dads dancing. Just remember that not every family is not perfect (not even mine are!)
Have you tried to talk to him? Pull him to one side and mention it to him.But try not to say it to him in a nasty gust say yeah dad you have had your fun now can you stop and gust let me do a bit of dancing now and you gust watch. good luck hope he understands you now….xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx gust be happy////
Dear Embarrassed Kelly,
I can realy understand your problem. you must feel so embarraased and I bet that is horrible hearing your friends laughing about your family. You must also feel that your family is not normal, but don’t feel like that because everyones family is a bit weird (even mine!)
Just remember that some people like to have a bit of fun once in a while, and I bet he is not doing it on purpose. He probably doesn’t realise so just relax and have a good time and enjoy yourself.
Have you tried mybe sitting him down ?
You could talking to him politly ?
Mybe you could say that he can dance at home and not in public .
You must feel must be so embarrassed of your dad’s dancing .It must feel horrible that your friends are laufing and sniggering at you.You must feel that your family.
Just remember that your dad is not doing it on perpose he might just be having a good time.Also he might not relize.
Have you tried to talk to him? Tell him that he is embarrassing you(polightly) ? Ask him to stop dancing because he is enbarrassing you(calmly)? because you dont want to upset him?
On the good side though at least he is not a grumpy father like most of them are. At least he is trying to dance. Still you are spending quility time with your family.Your dad is having a good time.
on the good side though at least he is having a good time and not being shy and i am sure that you like seeing your dad
happy then sad (i love seeing my dad happy !) from libby bambriock xx
You must be so embarrassed! Your dad must be such a windmill when he dances during the friday night disco’s. You must so embarrassed when your friends sniger and talk about him. Remember your dad may or may not be doing it on purpose
and may be having the time of his life during the disco.
Have you tried to talk to him nicely and say, ”dad try and dance like a normal person not like a windmill please ”. Then he will notice that he is embarrassing you. Good luck! You need it.
Dear Embarrassed Kelly,I can really understand your promlem.It must feel embarrassing,upsetting and very horrible when yor friends are sniggiring and that you feel like you are the only normal person in the family.I understand that if your dad finds out that your friends are sniggiring at him he is going to feel intimidated.
Just remember that your dad’s not doing it on purpose he just wants to feel happy and young again.He proberbley dosen’t realise that you feelso embarressed.He just wants to relax and have a great time.
have you tried to ask him not to dance in local places?you could talk to him at home you talk to him coutiously so that you dont upset him get him to understand .Tell him that you can show him some new moves.Tell him your feelings.
on the good side though hes trying to dance.He dosen’t want to embarress you he wants to entertane you.At leats you get to spend qolity time with your family.Im sure you like seeing your dad feeling young again.Dont feel embarrassed because everyones family is a littlebit wierd .Just remember that he is happy dont upset him.
Dear Embarrassed Kelly I can really understand your problem. You must be embarrassed because of your dads dancing.I bet it doesnt sound nice yout frieds taking the mick out of your dad.You must like you are the only normal person in your family.
Just remamber that your dad is not doing it on purpose.He is just trying to have fun and live his life.
Have you tried to talk to him?You could try to ask him nicelly.
On the good side though least it is not you.
I can really understand your problem. You must feel very embarrassed because of your Dad’s dancing. I bet it doesn’t feel very nice to see him dancing and your friends sniggering. You must feel you’re the only one in the pub with an embarrassing family. Just remember that your dad isn’t doing it on purpose. He is just having fun.He is not noticing he is embarrassing you. He just wants to entertain you and your family. He is just relaxing and having a good time.
Have you tried talking to your Dad ? Have tried teaching him new dance’s ? You might want to sit him down and clamly talk tohim about dancing only at home. You might want to teach him new dances you might stop your friends laughing at him. On the good side though your dad is trying to dance and he doesn’t feel scared to dance in public places.At least he is entertainingyou and your and not grummpy like others.Still you are spending time with your family. Do you like seeing him happy?
Some fantastic points made here – well done! You really thought about the best way for Kelly to speak to her father and gave her lots of options and advice. You have also tried hard to think about the way you write your sentences. 3HPs each guys well done.